At one of my Bible Study lessons, a minister said that women need to prepare for the man God purposed for them. Women need to create a space in which a man can enter. He even joked imitating an exchange between two women: “Friend: Girl, why are you cleaning out the other side of your garage? Woman: For my husband. Friend: Why are you sleeping on one side of the bed? Woman: Because my husband will need room. I have to get used to sleeping on one side of the bed”
I thought it was hilarious, but all jokes aside, I agree. I would not go to this extent. However, on a higher level this makes sense. Whether we are single, on the verge of a relationship or in one, we should be in preparation mode, two wholes coming together to make a better whole. I don’t think two halves coming together should expect a one, although mathematically it makes sense, “but physics, this sh*t ain’t.” It would be better said that we strengthen one another’s weaknesses.
Since we’ll forever be a work-in-progress (God is never done with us. Our living purpose dies when we do. Our legacy lives on), I presume we can pass several common roadblocks in marriage if we merely improve the quality of our individual lives.
Getting my finances in order – minimal debt, great credit score, retirement, and savings – is a personal goal, as well as a relationship goal, and a standard. I want to have the least amount of baggage entering into my marriage. I suspect finances is one of the leading reasons marriages are either dysfunctional or broken (sorry, but I did not want to read up on the statistics and compile them). It is imperative that spending and saving habits are complimentary, as well as, financial goals. The last thing I want to do is argue money in my relationship or future marriage. This year, I’ve made an effort to seek the best deal and figure out where to spend my money. I still enjoy eating out as well as cooking. Both are expensive, but now I check ads for prices. My friends have helped me become conscious of prices and substitutes.
So, ladies, continue financial responsibility or take it up. Men should not have to marry debt and bad credit, too. Although this is geared towards women, it is also applicable to men. “I don’t want no scrub. A scrub is a guy that can’t get no love from me. Hanging out the passenger side of his bestfriend’s ride trying to holla at me.” Hahahahahaha.
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