l.o.v.e. and other disasters

28 Sep

love- (noun) a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.  a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.

Most people have experienced love, and if you’re not married or currently with your love, you’ve probably experienced the other disaster: heart break.

To be completely transparent, I’ve had my heart broken in some horrible ways, but I have also been the cause of heart break. Although I’ve never cheated, because of past pains I was emotionally cut off and unattached which meant that no matter how much a guy loved me or expressed his love to me I was not capable of returning this affection back to them.

Until earlier this year, I frequently said the following things: love is overrated, love doesn’t exist, I’m not capable of falling in love [insert any other anti-love phrase here]. But after being realistic that I did want to eventually get married and have kids, I realized I had to open myself up to love.

In 10th grade I broke my ankle cheerleading. It hurt, it sucked, I was in a lot of pain, BUT as soon as that ankle heeled up I was back to jumping around with my pom-poms and cheering at pep rallies and games. So if I didn’t give up on cheerleading, why would I give up on love.

Despite all the frogs I had to kiss, and the times I felt let down, ultimately I know (after seeing those around me) that when you do find that one person, it makes all the pain and heartache worth it. If you’re not open to the idea of love every time you approach a new relationship, you could possibly miss out on the love you’ve been waiting for.

Mourn the loss of your love. Give yourself time to heal. Move on to the next one.

Love is not easy and can be a small disaster at times, but the real disaster is to never love at all. Open your heart and find strength in the fact that one day you will stumble upon the person God designed especially for you.

-megofthegoodwives and former Black Heart

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